Stop whipping yourself into submission, thinking that your happiness sits on the other side of the next set of goals that you’re going to achieve. You’ve already achieved the goals that you said would make you happy. So if you haven’t made it now, if this isn’t when life is going to begin, then when are you going to start?……A lot of people think in one form or another that my life will begin when they’re holding their happiness hostage. They’re in a holding pattern like a plan that can’t land for some reason.